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Saturday, April 22, 2006

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Wednesday, April 19, 2006

35+ Working Moms

I always thought I would have my children by the time I was 30. Unfortunately, the right guy didn 't come along until later when I was in my 30's - so here I am at 36, just having had my second child a few months ago.
Having children later in life is a blessing and a curse at the same time. I am so happy I worked on establishing my career in my 20's and early 30's, which in my industry, usually involved working long hours. I was also able to move to different cities across the U.S. with my jobs; something that was highly gratifying, but may not have been possible, had I also been married and a mother.
I also had a very active social life; I partied a lot, I travelled a lot and I dated a lot, and I am GLAD I did all that, as I have absolutely NO feelings of "oh, I wished I did that before I became a mom" type of thoughts. I definitely sowed all my wild oats!
However, I definitely don't have the energy many young moms have. I try to keep up my energy level with regular exercise and eating fairly right, but keeping up with a 2.5 year old very active boy and a 6 month old, can be exhausting - and I am on maternity leave; wait until I go back to work, then we will talk about how tired I am!!!
I also think because I did work and supported myself for so long, that I still feel a strong need to work. The thought of not contributing to the family income is not something I am comfortable with. I'm sorry, but I am not comfortable with asking my husband if I can go buy a new pair of jeans - it's just not in my nature.
I've also worked long enough at my current company to be able to stand my ground with working 40 hours a week and no more, which is what I am going to do when I go back to work. My kids come first and work comes somewhere after that.

Great articles for Real Moms

Author Michele Borba, who wrote the book '12 Simple Secrets Real Moms Know', discovered moms like us were feeling stressed out and overwhelmed trying to do what we thought we needed to do to raise happy, well-adjusted children. Borba decided to help moms take the pressure off themselves — and their kids — by offering some tips on keeping parenting real, and real simple.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12204478/from/RSS/


Master the working-mom shuffle
By CNN/Money senior writer, Sarah Max tells moms how to lose the guilt and look at the bright side of balancing kids and career.

http://money.cnn.com/2005/05/05/pf/workingmoms/

Tuesday, April 18, 2006

35+ Working Moms

It's hard to believe that I am going to be 40 in December and that I am a mother of a 10 year old and 2 1/2 year old.

How does everyone get everything that needs to get done in a day done? I use to be able to do it all and still have enough energy to do things for myself. I was much younger when I had my first child and had more energy than I do now. I haven't quite figured how people do but so that I don't drive myself completely insane I've prioritized.

My children and husband come first then household chores. When we get home my daughter (2 1/2 yr old) wants to play and have my undivided attention. Which is kind of hard since my son (10 yr old) wants me to watch him do tricks on his skateboard or watch his latest stunts on his bike. Now if my son has baseball practice we head up there with a loaf of bread and while he's at practice we're playing on the playground and feeding the ducks. Everyone wins on that day :)

After the kids go to bed I then attempt to laundry and other household chores. Some days things get done and other days the second I sit down for even a minute I am just too exhausted to get back up. There just aren't enough hours in the day!

I have to admit that I am probably the biggest baby when it comes to pain. So when I was younger (high school/early 20's) I seriously never thought I would have children. Now I can't imagine my life WITHOUT them in it no matter how old I am.

Kat

Monday, April 17, 2006

35+ Working Moms

Wow. I can't believe that I just celebrated my 39th birthday. How did I get so old???? And I have a 2 1/2 year old and 4 month old.

Boy, some days I feel so tired I wonder how I get through to bedtime. Being a mom is one of the most tiring things I've ever done and yet the most invigorating. Maybe it's because of my age that it seems so much more exhausting, I'm not sure.

The one thing I do know that the plus to being an older mom is that I am at a point in my life where I realize how incredible precious family is. There was a time I thought I'd never get married and my biological clock was ticking very loudly.

I've come to realize that career is very important but I've moved past being obsessed with it. Working long hours and too many days of the week are a thing of the past. I've earned the ability to work normal hours and I realize that in truth you can get just as much done in 8 hours as 10 if you work smart. Moms are the queen of multi-tasking. To your employer, it's more about what you accomplish in the time at work than the number of hours you are there. Let's face it, your company will take the number of hours you are willing to give. If you want to work 10 hour days/7 days a week. They'll gladly accept the free work. I've put in more than my fair share of overtime in the last 10 years.

Having children makes you realize what is really important. I want to spend time with my precious little men. They are only young once and I don't want to work past these precious times.

I lived my life and have no regrets that I missed out on something. I've done what I wanted to do. I went to college, worked on my career, had fun. This is exactly where I want to be.

Also check out Christie Brinkley in the latest edition of Good Housekeeping. She talks about being 52, working and being a mom to young children. (I wish I looked that good now and she's 52. I should be so lucky :) )

Yes, I'm sure I don't have the energy of a 25 year old mother, but I've got those extra years of experience that make me who I am. With age comes wisedom! I must be pretty wise by now :)

Some 35 and Older Mom Resources: The Daze of Older Moms
Baby Center Bulletin Board: 35 and Older Parents