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Thursday, April 27, 2006

Working Mom with School Age Kids

When our children were little we knew they NEEDED us. As they grow up, make friends and go to school there is that sense that they need us but they don't want to needs us as much as we would like them to. Although I couldn't always be a room mother as often as I liked I did enjoy going and helping with their class room parties or go on a field trip with them. In first, second even third grade I know my son really loved to have me there. Now that he's getting older (a whole 10 years old) I think he thinks its not "cool" to have your mom there.

Then there is the issue of homework, peer pressure, sports or other activities they want to be involved in. Although my son does really well in school (and I hope that continues) there are times that he tries to push his limits when it comes to doing his homework. Whether it's finishing up a worksheet, studying for a test or just reading a couple chapters. We finally had to set some guidelines and that was he can't go outside and play, ride his bike or play PS2 until all his homework is done. I think as a parent we have to make the time to review their homework with them or help them study for a test. We also talk about his day. What did he learn, what silly things happened during the day. Keeping the lines of communication open so when they do need to talk they know they can always come to you. I know this isn't always easy especially being a working mom and dinner still has to be made, laundry to be done, baseball or soccer practice and other children to be taken care of. It's definitely worth it all when you see them succeed in school and life in general.

Letting them spread their wings and hope that you raised them to make right choices when it comes to peer pressure is the toughest thing for a parent to do. They want to have their independence, hang with their buddies and act like a grown up even though we wish they would stay little a bit longer. For now at the end of the day I still get a "Will you tuck me in?" along with a kiss good night and I am going to hang on to this as long as I can.

Working with Kids in School

I always thought it would be easier to work once my children were in school. I couldn't have been more wrong. It's just as tough as leaving them in daycare, but at times I have to say it's probably tougher. Right now only one of my two children is in school, but my other child will be starting next year.

I hate coming home from work and hearing my kindergartener asking me to join her class for a field trip. I signed up as a class volunteer thinking I would be able to occasionally join my daughter's class for various field trips and class parties during the year. Unfortunately, things haven't worked out quite the way I had planned. To date I've managed to attend ONE field trip and I was able to run over and deliver cupcakes for my daughter's birthday.

It breaks my heart to tell my daughter that I can't join my daughter the way I want to, and it's going to be doubly hard once my other daughter starts school. I'm hoping that I will eventually have a job that allows for a little more time off to take part in my children's activities, but as a daycare provider I can't just take a day off to join my children.

Working parents always seem to get the short end of the stick with their children, but when you don't have the opportunity to stay at home, you have to make sacrifices. Fortunately my daughter is in some after school activities that I get to take part in with her, so that helps to make up for the activities I miss during school hours.