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Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Working and Travel

I am expected to travel in my position as a Product Specialist. It sounded wonderful when I was hired in 1997. In fact my job description required 40% travel (a bit of an exaggeration). I was single (living with now DH) and had no children. After having my DD almost 6 yrs. ago I took her on a couple of business trips, I took along my sister once and my mother once (free nanny services). I found that that didn't work very well, I couldn't really concentrate on work and didn't like to leave them sitting in a hotel room!

Truthfully, after 9-11 the travel budgets were cut, so much of the non-essential travel was avoided for a couple of years. During that time I did little traveling, which was a bit of a relief to me (not that I am saying anything good came from 9-11!)!

I have tried my best to keep all my trips to just 1 night ( or even fly out and back in the same day, but that is exhausting) over the past 5.5 years, but a few times have been gone 2 nights (never 3, knock on wood). I do believe that limiting my travel has not been good for my career. There have been trade shows that I should've gone to, but a co-worker was sent instead; but being a working mom means that sacrifices have to be made in all aspects of life.
My traveling is often sporatic and unpredictable which makes it even harder. This year I have been on approx. 5-6 trips which is a little more than typical (but what is typical?). I think this will slow down now that summer is here. I am ready for some fun family travel!

My DH loves our kids and does great with them. It is probably harder on me than on the kids!
However his work suffers when I am gone since he does both drop off and pick up, but we make it work.

I guess I have to try to look at the good side, I do get a well deserved break and a quiet evening in a hotel room when I am away (though it is lonely). Just so that it is not too often!


Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Working and Travel

I have my first business trip in a couple of years this week. Before I had kids, I travelled a lot for work, almost 2 times a month. After kids, I really limited my trips to what was absolutely necessary, and even declined some trips if I felt I could. However, I feel in a lot of ways that hurt my career.

This is my first trip since having my second child almost a year ago. I feel like I do need to start travelling again for work. It creates better relationships and helps my career. However, finding that balance is difficult between necessary travel and necessary family time.

I'm stressed about the trip. Even though it is only one night, I will miss the kids terribly. I can't imagine not tucking my kids in on Thursday night. I'm also stressed about my husband alone with the kids, trying to do both drop off and pick up at daycare. He is great with the kids, but it's a lot of extra pressure for him, and it requires him to work short hours. I just really hope it goes well


Monday, June 26, 2006

Pregnant and Interviewing

Tomorrow I will face something that I think most women dread. I have a job interview and I just found out I'm pregnant with my third (and final) baby. I have so many thoughts running through my head about this. Do I tell them immediately, or do I wait and tell them if/when they offer me a job? I'm thinking that I should probably wait, as I am only 4 weeks pregnant, and if something were to happen I wouldn't want to have jeopardized a potential job for nothing. Of course, I hope everything goes wonderfully with my pregnancy, and no job is more important than a healthy baby.

There are just so many unanswerable questions in this situation and I'm sure others can relate. I know that legally I cannot be denied a job because of my pregnancy, but I'm sure that if it came down to me or another candidate that isn't pregnant, the other candidate would get the position. And there would be no way to prove that the other person was chosen because I was pregnant.

So, while this may be the first time I've ever had to face this situation, I'm thinking the smart thing to do is go in there and do the interview and save the announcement for later, if I get the job.